{"id":583,"date":"2019-02-12T06:37:38","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T12:37:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wandertruenorth.com\/?p=583"},"modified":"2019-02-12T07:10:05","modified_gmt":"2019-02-12T13:10:05","slug":"the-power-of-a-10-minute-meltdown","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wandertruenorth.com\/?p=583","title":{"rendered":"The Power of a 10-Minute Meltdown"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I’m sure you can relate. Likely there is too much on your plate right now.\u00a0 Life seems like a crazy balancing act. There\u2019s barely enough room for a few moments with people you love.\u00a0 While there may be a lot of good, no, great<\/em> things happening, there are limited moments to stop, take a breath and enjoy the good stuff.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then something big happens. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everything shifts. Your busy schedule just went to frantic. Decisions that you make now have far-reaching consequences. You have to confront someone you love. Every time the phone rings, you fear it\u2019s because you have to drop everything and run to help. You have to weigh what\u2019s more important \u2013 finishing that work report for a client or taking a shower. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You begin to exclusively shop at stores that have some sort of pick-up window\u2026and then when you get home and you realize they get the order wrong, you are just too tired to complain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What was a person make\nwith apple sausage anyway? Hope everyone enjoys their apple-flavored pasta at\ndinner tonight.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, Yesterday, I had it.\u00a0 I hit the breaking point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m a strong person. I am a positive person. I am \u2013 eerrr<\/g>, was \u2013 an eternal optimist.\u00a0 But a few months of stress followed by a horrible few days of conflict were just too much for me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I did 2 things I haven\u2019t done before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First \u2013 I started tearing up in front of one of my mom\u2019s caregivers.\u00a0When I received the \u2018drop everything call\u2019, I ran out of my office really without thinking \u2026 and when I arrived in my mom\u2019s room, I couldn\u2019t keep it together when the nurse explained to me a new health situation that needed immediate attention. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then, when I went back to work, I read an email. An\nemail from someone I loved with words that cut into my heart. And  I completely lost it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Big ugly cry.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I had to work. My schedule was so unexpectedly condensed\nfrom the previous call, I just couldn\u2019t let this derail my Monday. I\u2019d never\nget the time back.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So I made a deal with myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I gave myself time to just lose it. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For 10 minutes, I got to just feel what I was going through.\nI got to hurt. I got to scream. I got to be angry. I got to cry. Ugly cry.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then when my alarm when off, I washed my face. Took a\ndeep breath. And got back to work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While it wasn\u2019t my most productive work day ever, in this season, it quickly became my most important work day.\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019m not sure why over the past few months I\u2019ve denied myself this freedom.\u00a0The situations I\u2019ve been thrown into hurt. A lot. You’ve probably been there. I didn’t deserve any of this. Something completely unexpected happens and you’re thrust into a whole new sitatuion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve committed myself to being strong for my family, my\nhusband, my clients\u2026but if I was giving advice to someone in my shoes, I would\nhave told them to get all their emotions out. To sweat it out at the gym. To\nyell at the top of their lungs in the car. To ugly cry every chance that they\nget.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So why don\u2019t I treat myself the same way?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life is hard. No one is immune to that.\u00a0 We have seasons that, quite frankly, suck. It shouldn’t be surprising. So why wouldn\u2019t I give myself the same advice, and the same grace, that would give someone else?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Today, I have some tough conversations. I know it\u2019s going to be a long day. But today I will extend myself grace. Today I will give myself a break.\u00a0 And today, I have already written that 10 minutes into my schedule. I may not need it. But there’s a good chance that I will.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So don\u2019t call me between 2:20 and 2:30 today. I\u2019ve got\nsomething important on my schedule.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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